I think 180s are good... they are for YOU, not just to try and save a marriage. If you think going dark is having a negative effect then try something else.
Root, you always have great advice! I agree about doing the 180s for you; I think if they are good for you then it is a good idea. Like I worked on my depression (now am so much happier!), being less dependent on H, and GALing and all of that stuff has kind of helped my self esteem too.
That is the stuff that H was always bothered by but those changes have been good for me, too!!! I hate to admit that I started this whole process and DBing just to save my marriage, now I am trying to do it more for myself and I think that is healthier, too. Karen
Karen