Hello and thanks for taking the time to read this.
I am posting in here for a couple of reasons, one is to get this off of my chest and two is perhaps looking for a solution (or at least help) for an ongoing problem in my marriage.
My wife and I have been married for 6 years now, we have four children, all boys and we are a blended family. We have 2 of the boys all the time and the other two every other weekend and all during the summer months.
My wife is a fantastic mother, warm and caring and free with her love and affection for the kids. She favors the children of her own body maybe slightly over her step kids (or that could just be my perception of things)
When it comes to her time with me, however she is withdrawn, cold and distant and at times downright mean. We have had sex less than 15 times in the last 3 years....she states that sex makes her skin crawl and that I should not take it personal. (!!!) She also has informed me that I should not get upset or made about the fact that before her sexual affair with another man we had sex on a fairly regular rate, and that it was good sex..not just the mechanical thing we do now on the rare times we do do it. She has also said that I need to curb my sex drive and be happy for the fact that we have sex at all.
I find my wife sexy in every way shape and form and it is hard (really hard)for me not to want to have sex with her on a very regular basis. I don't expect her to have sex with me everyday or even every other day, but once a week or so would be nice.
We get into some really big fights over this and I just don't know what to do anymore. It is starting (ok it has been going on for a while) to make question my own looks and personality and charm etc etc...my self-esteem is down. I have tried to talk to her, tried to ignore it tried to do whatever I can to help the situation along...all to no result. She seems to try and put the onus on me to change.
Sorry about the random fashion of this post, but there is so much on my mind that wants to come out..it is hard to fashion into a good form.
I don't want to leave my wife, I don't want to split my family..but I don't want to live in such a sad sad place anymore.
