I can see where you are coming from, having to relive the sexual experiances that I had with OM everytime that H brings it up. I think that may finally work to stop the 101 questions.
As for you having a hard time getting over the OM, it is hard. I guess that is why it took me to see if OM still wanted me back and then finally call it quits with OM. It was a clean brake and nothing was left to question at least for me. I was in a 'funk' for about a week until I finally told H all about the A and what had been going on for a while now, and how at one point I was ready to leave and not look back. I believe that if we did not have a child I think that it would have been gone a long time ago. Now I am not saying that I am stayed because of our D, I know that H is the one for me and I am willing to put the work in to make it work out this time.
Now on to some fun things... This weekend is the first weekend that I am going away without H, even though it is with my SIL, MIL, and another girl friend. We are bowling in a tournament south of Detroit, should be fun, other than the drive down there tonight, UGG. I guess there is some construction on the way down but OH well its one of our two seasons around here, Road Construction and Winter. H was gone last weekend so I was left to my own devices, and was a good girl, did not even go out Saturday night. Normally I would have taken full advantage if H being gone and headed out for a night of fun. Next weekend is H and I's weekend away for the first time in a while. We are going to another bowling tournament out of state. It's kind of nice because of the group of people that we are going with, a bunch from H's work and a couple people that we bowl with on our Monday night leauge.
