One of the things I need to work on is being more open & no so vague. I don't want to look like a freak checking up on her phone stuff. I am worried like the first reply said that it would push her further away. I am trying to get her to go to therapy w/me. I hope to bring up the affair in a safer environment where there is some mediation. We don't yell or fight at all...we can talk "nice" no problem. So being calm is easy. I dunno I think I will wait for now. I have an urge to confront the guy & be a jerk...but that is not me. I am not like that. It is more of a daydream of me punching him in the face, but again, not reality for me. Plus they are ATTYs so whole other bag of problems if I did that! :-) Another thing I am working on is to get EVERYTHING out in the open...I have a hard time giving myself the value to share all. I often feel like what I have to share isn't that important. Or life prevents me from speaking up. Too busy tending to kids, house, work, etc. BLAH (sigh) I need to hit the gym tonight to kick my own ass a bit!
ME 33 W 37 Together 8 M: 5+ disconnected: 5 D: 2 D: 3
