You're spot on Puppy with what I'm planning, except I'm not going to give her a chance to spin it to the kids before I tell them. I'm not going to reply to the email and not say a word to her tonight.
I'm going to take DS15 and go see DS19 tomorrow. I'm going to tell them what's going on and that I can't take her disrespect any longer. That I've been trying to work saving the marriage for over 7 months now and their mom refuses to quit her affair and refuses to try to work on our marriage and expects ME to move out of the house while she stays in it with DS15 and lets me pay for her to live in our nice big house and continue to support the life style she's become accustomed to while she continues her affair with OM. I'm then going to tell DS15 that he can choose to live with whoever he chooses to live with.
Sounds like a good idea to talk to the kids first before any spin as you suggest. I like the idea of you having your S15 choose who to live with, but wouldn't a 3rd possibility being that he could live with both of you, maybe one on the weekend or something? I know a lot of couples do that although I do have the kids currently and H just visits. I am thinking S15 may not want to have to choose between his parents, both of you which he probably loves. Karen
