Well, She upped the anty. She sent me an email that said "I'm all for separating, but me and DS15 are not leaving the house. What are your plans?"
How do I respond to that?
"Wife, my plans are to remain in my marital house with my children and work on my marriage, if you'll let me. If you don't want to, I can't force you to, but I'm certainly not leaving, nor will I tolerate your disrespectful behavior by carrying on affair in front of me and the kids. So I suggest you find a place to stay for awhile."
Then I would get S15 for some good dad-son alone time, and tell him in an age-appropriate way that Mom has a boyfriend, that it's not appropriate for married people to have boyfriends and girlfriends, that Dad absolutely doesn't agree with it and wants to work on things, but Mom is still fighting that and it's sad and we have to help her (or "pray for her," if you're so inclined)."
You're absolutely right, she's trying to regain the power. Another good "truth dart" to throw at her is:
"Wife, you're simply in no position to be making demands of me right now."
