Bring on the Rain

[Rob1231]

He said, you do whatever you want. ... Again, he just repeated himself....Whatever, do what you want and I'll take care of it.

What a clown. Sue, honestly, you just need to take him at his word - do what you want, and then (the tricky part!) don't give it a moment's thought when he gets all pissy. Because, as you know, he's gonna get pissy no matter what - and that's HIS problem, not YOURS.

I don't want to be selfish, but I could use the rest. She's better and I don't want to get her sick again.

Seriously, "not being selfish" is overrated. When selfish means taking care of yourself and protecting D4 from illness - I can't think of a better time to put yourself first.

On a related note, I'll tell you that I have been wanting to go work out more myself lately, but keep letting other priorities get in the way of that. I told my W the other night that I am going to go to a spinning class today after work, and started to apologize for that delaying dinner or meaning we wouldn't eat together. She cut me off - and rightly so, as it turned out. She actually used the words that I should BE MORE SELFISH - and when she did, I realized that she was right, putting myself first rather than deferring to her too much is being strong and independent, and what's more - that's attractive.

The more I hear of your H, Sue, the more I believe that it's all going to come crashing down on him someday soon. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. In detaching from that accident waiting to happen, you're doing the right things, for both yourself and for that sweet little girl of yours. ((BIG hugs!))