Hello DBS, I am sorry that you need to be here due to your sitch.
I was a WAW...my story is over on "newcomers" forum called "new here...getting acquainted". Its long and boring and may or may not have anything in it that may help you...but just letting you know its there.
Have you read up all you can about mid-life crises? This is apparently what your wife is doing, just based on the little info you gave. Someone in an MLC can just turn into a complete alien and suddenly do and say things they never would have before, including walking away from spouse, family, their own kids, jobs, taking up with another person who is a low-life, spending all the family money on something frivolous...you get the idea. The thing with an MLC is that they are nearly insane as this is happening, so it really helps if you can detach from the person at least temporarily so that you won't be rocked to the core by their hurtful statements. From what I understand, many or most MLC people do eventually come back and land on earth again, but by then many times the damage is too great for the left behind spouse to handle and they don't want the MLC spouse anymore.
In my sitch, I walked away, but not in the midst of an MLC, I actually asked and begged my husband to pursue me and win me back and I gave him the instructions on how to do so. But I think when I left, it prompted HIM into going into an MLC, and suddenly - after he told me he'd pursue me and make it better, instead he ignored me, eventually "hated" me, won't speak to me, abandoned our son financially, emotionally and then physically, and went off and did his own thing including buying a new car with money stolen from our marriage assets. So I doubt that my sitch is close to yours, but my thread may still help you to read it anyway. I'm not sure how to link it or I would do that.
Hang in there and keep posting! You are going to need lots of help and support.
