hey peace- I hope going to the T was helpful for your D. It is so good that she wants to talk about her fears...that is so healthy.
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I see the road as acceptance and although I am not there, I am closer and it is my goal
Do you really think you haven't made it to acceptance yet? I believe you have accepted the reality of the situation...or do you mean acceptance that the situation won't change? If that is the case, how can you accept that because you don't know what the future has to hold?
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but I am also clear that while I want to DB and practice unconditional love for H, I also want to allow for some reality talks when it seems appropriate and I no longer fear H leaving for good
You and I are in the same place on this. We have been trying to be so patient and understanding during the last year. I know it has to be hard for you to watch your children go through this without saying anything. As for me, I am getting tired of the touch and goes with little progress. We can try to continue to be patient and just wait for answers and that may work...but I believe there are no cookie cutter answers because all of our situations are different...very similar, but different. We have been practicing DB and we understand why it works...but ultimately, we have to do what is right for ourselves.
