Olive, you're right. I've come to realize that I did change most of the things that my H had complained about. Then, when those things had changed, he'd come at me with more things that I was doing wrong or he'd pull up things from 2 years ago. Funny, most people think that women are the ones that hold a grudge. Not in my case. It's my H. He'll pull up stuff from years ago. After I made all kinds of changes and things were getting better, he started pushing me to bring a 3rd party into our bedroom. I refused. Well, then I just wasn't meeting his needs, I needed to relax and I just wasn't any fun. WTH?? Just looking for anything that would push me away.
TAL- I do have a wonderful boss. I have 2 and they're both really great guys. They are both married with kids and understand.
As far as the daycare thing goes...... Nope, still won't deal with it. I told him to let me know today what was going on. He called and simply said, I dropped off a check, the Director wasn't there. I asked if he planned on talking to her so I'd know if I was leaving tonight to pick up D4. He said, you do whatever you want. He was very, very rude to me. I tried to push things and make him make the decision. He just said, you do whatever you want and I'll take care of it. So, if I go get her, he'll tell me that he wanted her to say another week. If I leave her, he'll b*tch at me for being charged for another week that she's not there. I CANNOT win with him. I asked why he was angry. He said, do I sound angry? Yes, you do. Again, he just repeated himself....Whatever, do what you want and I'll take care of it. So, something happened or something isn't going quite his way and again, he's taking it out on me. I miss D4 a lot, but I'm still sick. I don't want to be selfish, but I could use the rest. She's better and I don't want to get her sick again.
I did got to the work Happy Hour last night. It was fun. I found myself relaxing and not worrying about anything. H got home just a few minutes after me. Not one word. I said hello. Nothing. I said it again and got a mumbled hi. He changed into his workout clothes and left. I was in the bedroom and when I came out, he was gone. Not a word.
-Sue
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day