Well, Fig, if he asks what he can do to help and you tell him he can change a light bulb, that's a bit different, isn't it? I don't see anything troubling about that. First, he asked. Second, your D is a lot more remote and the request probably doesn't have much to do with your old M.
Althea already asked once some time ago. Mitch didn't do it. Now she is planning on asking again. They are newly D, there are still power struggles to finish and letting go to happen. Very different sitch.
I can certainly imagine asking my XH for some small favor now. We are purportedly friends and have some contact. It wouldn't much matter to me one way or the other. But the dynamic would be very different than when I was asking him to dogsit because it is something he "should" have been doing after the
