2nd ex...no contact...we don't share kids
I don't expect him to do anything other than what is court ordered

1st ex...different story

i carried his children
i cared for his children

they lived with me...i clean them, feed them, hug them when they are sad, kiss away owies, wash their clothes etc....

if I wanted him to change a lightbulb he better damn well do it

there would be a reason I was asking and if it was in the house where his children live it needs to get done

i might not want to ask
but if I can't reach it
no one is around to do it
he asks what he can do
and I tell him.....

seems pretty straight forward