I think maybe this is one case where acting "as-if" (specifically, treating my W as if she's still her old trustworthy self) will likely to lead to more harm than good.
On another note, I am wondering whether a 180 is too late at this stage. My standard MO is/was to withdraw into my "cave" when confronted by unpleasantries, especially with the stresses from family and work. I have continually worried that "going dark" has been seen by W as just "more of the same" from me.
Anyone think retaking up some DB approaches again might have better results this time? Or is it really too late, or just not the right time?
Oh, Lord, am I cycling back into ambivalence again?
