Will I ever trust her again, even if (hypothetically) she were to turn around and return back to her original honorable self as my wife? No, not entirely -- certainly never to the foolish degree that I did before.
What you said Nocode! I was the same way with 100% trust in my H and I think maybe that's not a good way to live. I actually do think I was taking my H for granted, but now of course I realize that was a mistake. I think Neecy you are seeing that as a negative it sounds like, but perhaps we are just wiser and more realistic & not as naive as we were before (at least I was!).
I do think a lot of spouses have the potential to stray and/or want divorce as in my case, and we never should take our spouses for granted or think our marriage can't be worked on or improved on or whatever. I do think though that you can't go around being paranoid & suspecting the worse, but on the other hand 100% trust is probably not the best way to be either, maybe something somewhere in the middle of those???
And Neecy I hope you will always consider your actions re: the R and not do anything hasty, and make sure it is what you want. I support you always!!! Karen
