So sorry to hear about your father!!! I hope he is well soon! Hope you feel better also!
It is so frustrating the way your W and my H act. I suspect it is b/c if they don't demonize us or whatever you want to call it and see us as horrible people they wouldn't be able to handle the guilt of what they are doing to us and their children!
I hate to say it but I think you may be right about your W and the money also. My H was taking out large sums of money each month before he moved out. I suspect he did spend a lot of it on OW because they were getting hotel rooms (OW is married with children also), but I also think he was creating a nest egg for himself as well. I have saved receipts and bank records and from what I understand when/if we divorce he will have to pay me back half of what he spent on OW at the time and hopefully some of his nest egg too! I def. think that is also going to make him look not very good to the Judge in the case as well who will of course be deciding child custody and everything.
I hope your W is not doing the same, but hopefully in future I think you do need to be careful and keep in mind it's a possibility I think and keep an eye on that, and if she has done anything like my H maybe you also can get bank receipts and/or bank records. My H is careless so he left some of the bank receipts (one for $1000!) lying around and I have kept them of course!!! Karen
