Well I have finished listening to the KLA tapes and I did appreciate them.
More than anything it taught me what my role in the breakdown of our M has been.
I do believe that my H saw me as being controlling and selfish. He probably saw me as a mother figure. I did this out of concern for him and his bankruptcy and his heavy drinking and crazy spending habits. But whether I can justify it or not is not the point. The point is that is why he no longer look at me with passion.
I feel that these are all areas that he would have to improve on in order for him to feel better about himself and want to return. Also they are all things that I would need to see acomplished in order to feel like I wont slip back into the same old mothering type of patterns. TIPPER