WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

jmw,

Thanks for your input. I spoke with H tonight briefly. Something out of the ordinary happened. Usually when I call he answers with an unenthusiastic hello. Tonight when I called he answered as if excited to talk to me like a friend and was upbeat during the entire conversation. It was a pleasant surprise.

A brief overview of the convo.
Me: How much did you say you need for the pool?
H: Half
Me: How much?
H: 250
Me: I was thinking that I don't think that it is appropriate
H: (confused) appropriate? Ok, but you said that you might help that is why I asked. So does that mean that the house is mine since you aren't going to contribute.
Me: Well I only mean that I am not welcome to use the house and say who comes and goes.
H: You can not say who comes and goes, but you are welcome whenever
Me: I can't... but I can...
H: Yes
Me: Maybe I can't say who comes and goes, but I would like to be informed in advance and not when they are on their way.
H: Of course. (He goes on to tell me no one is coming for the next few months)
So I agree to help since...
1. He still pays for my car insurance and cell phone
2. He will use me not paying to do completely as he wants with the home which to a great extent he already does.
The rest is pretty routine and he invites me over to visit on Friday.

Very frustrating and a lesson in holding back. My PMA for the day: A pleasant change in his attitude.