Ready2Change (II) - Detached

[Ready2Change]

Hi Ian, Thanks for the input. Tonight was rough. I will respond, but my answers my be different tomorrow.

Quit with the planning. Being nice or respectful to your wife is so much more significant when it is not pre-planned. And trust me, they know when it is pre-planned.

I guess I am trying to learn to be nice and respectful. My W perceived me as a "self center A$$". Looking back now, yes I was. She tried to tell me, but I didn't hear.

I think you are a wee bit tightly wrapped right now with all of this. You need to relax a bit and get back to the business of being yourself.

Pulling my wagon of resentment and being myself got me in this mess.

This is not a game of strategy, it is your marriage. The attraction that eventually draws your wife back to you needs to be the real you. Otherwise, if she does come back, you will end up letting her down because of her false expectations. You do not want to end up back here because of that.

I know, I am not sure who the real me is anymore. I know I have changed with all of this.

Be yourself, be a good person, be caring, and lovingly detach yourself from your wife. I know its not easy, but the reward at the end, whether it be restoring your marriage or becoming yourself again are well worth developing the patience.

I agree. I think I backslid alot tonight.