My S has been since July 07. I look back and see the things she did/way she's treated me and wonder if she is worth it. I guess these feelings go along with detaching. W visited me in the hospital every day but for only a 1/2 to one hour, the kids were their every day and stayed a lot longer than her. I had said something to a common friend the W said I deserve someone better than her, I told the friend I was beginning to think the same way. It got back to W and she got devensive about it. A lot of little things add up, after surgery I went to D24's house, W made dinner but none for me, little things like that. I had to go to D's house tonight to look at D19's car, exhaust pipe broke apart, just removed the bad pipe, we'll have to take it to get a new exhaust. While there W was friendly, I only stayed about 15 min after W got there. when I left I said goodbye to everyone but her, she said bye to me three times.
Maybe coach is onto something, she said before to only stay 1/2 hour and give W compliment on the way out. Now it's stay only 10 minutes and don't acknowledge her. Step forward , get their interest up then withdraw, get them to come towards us. I did see some of the old W, falling asleep while a commotion is going on around her, the tired, sad look on her face, guess she's bouncing back and forth. I asked my sons today what they thought about their dad dating. They both said I deserve happiness, Mom isn't interested in your happiness, find someone who is.
I have talked to two couples who got back together after D'ing. One was D'd for 15 months, I wished I could have gotten the whole story, who left for greener pastures and then realized they were back home.
Next time H brings up houses again, you might bring up the subject of getting a new house to start a new M, see what he says. He might be waiting for that invitation.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
