Yes, it IS very common for cheaters to find other hidden ways to communicate with their APs. However, it's not a proven fact in your sitch at this moment, and I understand that others are just trying to help and look out for you. We all want to hope for the best but should at the very least prepare ourselves for the worst, as you did with the phone bill. Good job, btw.
You already know that OW's name is going to come up frequently because she and H work together. They HAVE to have this contact. There's no way around it, but it should be limited to work related matters only, and from what I've read and been told thus far, I'd say, and quite comfortably, that this is the case. At this point, I don't believe there's anything more to their R other than work.
Now, could I be mistaken? Of course I could! There's always that unfortunate possibility, but WHY would I want to focus on such a thought? Something so negative and disheartening.....???
I say no, let it go. Focus on BETTER things. On YOU and what makes YOU feel POSITIVE and GOOD.
All that said, and now that I have a much better understanding of your feelings about your sitch, then tell H's parents IF and WHEN you are ready and feel it is absolutely necessary. Furthermore, if you are honestly ok with the way things are at this particular point in your M, then that is your decision and others should accept and respect this.
Take care of yourself, lady!
This strikes me as "putting your head in the sand," I'm sorry. People do NOT "have to work together," not if saving one's marriage is a priority. Neecy's husband should have ended all contact a long time ago, and come back and worked on his marriage. Can she MAKE him do that? No, but she certainly doesn't need to -- and SHOULDN'T -- tolerate his contact with his girlfriend.
"Why would you want to focus on such a thought?" Because it's REALITY. And I would much rather deal in reality than in wishful thinking when planning my future and my life.
