"Inspiration" LOL that's funny, but thanks \:\) Hmmm...I am reading your signature-- sounds similar to my sitch- I'll go read your thread and see if I can be of any help.

My H is not your typical WAS. He did NOT have an OW to run off to. He has always maintained that he loves me, that he doesn't regret our time together, that he is attracted to me....BUT. "But what?" is the big mystery.

You know, I always thought that if he ever told me he slept with someone else, I would vomit (literally). And now, he said he's been with 2 other women and I just gloss over it like it's nothing. That frankly shocks me. I think that because it was told to me in the context of "this is what I don't want and I *know* I don't want it because..." and "you are so much better than them" I am able to handle it better. I did cry a few tears on the way to the store...

Am I an idiot? Or just someone that wants to save my marriage and sees it as a past indiscretion?

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing