Just realized something interesting. Every day, I get an email from David Cunningham, a self-proclaimed "attraction expert". While I don't buy into everything he says, today's email got my attention.
Here is one paragraph: In addition, women hate being bored so badly that if you do ANYTHING with enthusiasm, they usually want to watch or join in. This is especially true if you announce that you are going to do it and then just tell them they can come along instead of hounding them to come and do it with you. The next biggest thing that most women hate after boredom is feeling like they missed out on something fun or interesting. Indeed, the more enthused you are about the activity and less you act like she needs to be there, the more she'll expect it to be interesting and want to get involved.
1. Back in February, I signed up for a wine/food event. I told W that I was going, and she was welcome to join me. 'No thanks' was the curt reply. 'Well I'm going anyway, too bad', I said. Guess what? The day of the event, she emailed me and wanted to go. I scrambled, got her a ticket, and that was the reversal of the ship sailing away from me, that night.
2. Last night: 'Oh by the way, I signed up with a hiking group...should be a lot of fun' I said. 'Did you sign me up?' she asked. 'No I didn't - why would I? Do you want me to?' I asked, surprised.
3. Last night again: 'I'm going out to a wine/food pairing with a bunch of our friends on Monday evening'. She says, 'Sounds nice....why am I not going?'. 'Well they said they needed one butt for one seat, and they knew I was single, so they asked me', I said. 'Just proves that our friends are all mad at me for what I've done', she said, sadly. 'No, they're not' I said, 'they just knew I was available'.
So this is worth exploring...I don't need to invite her along every time, just on the most interesting activities!!
