Do you think you will be able to get over it, live with it, or do you think you will at some point have to tell her that you really don't like it when she talks like that? Would it have turned you on if she had talked that way before the OM came into her life?
I've seen pictures on W cell phone, and I've read some emails and seen txt messages I know what the attraction was between W and OM so I really need to ask W any questions on that subject. I taken a lot of advice on this board to heart and never mentioned him. There are some thing that will need to discussed to truly reconcile us but that's for the future.
The way W is now sexually, I would have been totally made up if our own relationship had developed that way, even with the bad language, now I know how she gets turned on. It's tough to take that she learnt this from OM or OM has brought it to the surface but I'll have to deal with that. Maybe try to take it to a level where I feel I'm satisfying that desire within her but again we'll need to talk later and work out how I should pleasure her. I'm not gonna stop her now cos as I've mentioned before I have had more from her this week than the previous 3 years
Too be honest Sandi In all our time together W used to be very placid in bed, never really talked about it, and she led me to believe that she had no interest in sex. She always had the lights off, eyes close and was always urging me to hurry up and get it over with. Sometime last year I had words with W and I told her in the fifteen year we've been together I still didn't know how to really turn her on. All of a sudden, and I mean all of a sudden this week she just erupted on me sexually. Its scary and fascinating at the same time and I've told her I've got a lot of catching up to do with her, but there is this tinge of sadness in my mind that this pleasure I'm getting is fuelled by OM but again I have to overcome this.
12 months ago W took me to our favourite restaurant and gave me the famous ILYBNILWY speech, and added a few other horrible things to it. last night she was letting me know in very explicit term how much she liked me, was turned on by me and wanted me to be very forceful with her. So much has happen in 12 months and this last week has shocked me.
