Cake eating or progress?

[Trixi]

Link to last thread : I don't "get" my H

H was away for Easter and just got back yesterday. He was very happy to see me.

Highlights:

*He said "Ya think you're winning me back?" and I said "Yup. what do you think?" and he said "could be...could be..."

*While ML he said ILY.

*Throughout the night he would snuggle up to me, kiss me, etc. (Normally we don't really touch at night because it makes us both too warm.)

*He said that we are dating exclusively. When I asked what that meant, he said that we would see each other at least once a week and that he wasn't going to be trying to meet anyone else.

*He sees the separation as a positive thing for us as a couple.

*He thinks I am beautiful and sexy/hot.

*I did some nice girly things for him that he REALLY appreciated

*He thinks about 'us' all the time

*He thinks we are doing better than we have for a long time.

*I have been wanting a tummy tuck *forever*, primarily to get rid of stretch marks from being pregnant, and asked if he would be willing to "babysit" me if I got one; he said "of course-I would love to" and i said "well, of course, you'll reap the benefits..." and he got a bit offended because it made it seem like *that* was his motivation to care for me.

Lowlights:
*He told me he had sex with two other girls. Both younger with hot bodies, but it helped him discover that it wasn't what he wanted. That sex with me is "WAY better even though they were beautiful and half my age." (I am really REALLY surprised that I am not very upset about this. ..I think because it was obvious it was awhile ago and that he now knows for sure that he isn't looking for that....)

*He says he really LIKES being single AND getting to eat his cake. But he knows it can't go on like this forever. (No sh*t, Sherlock)

*that he still feels like "something" is missing; that we don't communicate as good as we could. I brought up retrouvaille and he said that he didn't think we needed to go someplace to figure out how to talk. (Then WTH *do* we need?!) But "maybe he later he would be open to it."

*he said that he is starting to just say what he thinks and feels and if I get upset, then he might get upset too, but that it's not going to make him run. That we need to be open and honest with our thoughts and feelings.....*sigh* so nice in theory- and so easy for him given that he knows I'm not wanting a D. It seems like a lot of the premise of DB is to NOT 'pressure' our spouse with our thoughts.

*He definitely plans to have me remain here for the rest of my lease. (End of Dec.)

So, there it is in a nutshell.

I am hoping for a fab trip to Costa Rica. The point that he decided he was basically "done" was on a vacation in 2001. I hope that *this* vacation can help him realize I am different. In 2001, I was severly thyroid impaired. I was basically the walking dead (even so said doctor), but he still doesn't truly believe that the thyroid messed me up and impacted me mentally or physically. Oh, sure, he'll say he understands, but I can tell he doesn't *really*.