Any chance?

[Bill_S]

Germ,
For me,at this point, I dont see any chance and I wouldnt take her back. She wants her life and freedom. She wants this OM or someone else down the road because she wants to beloved and be in love. Shes sleeping with the guy even after he cheated(at least once
), bashed her to people and the dirty texts to other women. She admits hes "not the one" and her walls/guard is up but she just cant leave him alone. Must be really good sex! Hes younger than her. Possibly a as much as 10 years. He WILL get tired of her eventually. Then what? Either crawl back to me (too stubborn) or start looking for the next "Fix". Its for sure MLC and hormonal. Shes possibly bi-polar(her family thinks so..and others). So at this point in time there is NO relationship and Im closing the door. She may change,may not but I have to protect me now.

As for your stbx acting on those thoughts....she may have had them all along. If not then a mental issue may be the cause. How old is she? Menopause is HORRIBLE...thats a BIG factor in my D. Or she developed addictions over time, maybe its a defense mechanism or shes desperate for something....anyways Im speculating and I shouldnt.

But I will say this. If not for this whole thing (right Chevelle) I wouldnt be the man I am right now. This is a chance to really examine yourself. Those dont come along very often. You are standing at a fork in the road....one way leads down...more of the same...the other leads up to who you were meant to be. Which way are you going?

Im the kind of man she will want back, SOMEDAY. She may come back...may not. Either way Im growing everyday and I like who Im becoming.

Take care,
Bill