Interesting day yesterday. It was a crazy, crazy day. After a full day of stuff, my son had his first t-ball game and then I was going out for drinks with my friend J, who is a very good friend of my H and they used to work together. She's known about what's going down for a long time and gave my H advice back just after the bomb. I know that H was a little worried about what I was going to tell J, but not worried in too bad of a way. I just replied that it wasn't like I was on a mission to smear him, that yes we would probably talk about what's going on with us but that we would have plenty of other things to talk about than just him. I digress.
Anyway, the day was crazy and yesterday was my night to stay at the apartment. Just before my son's game I called and asked if he minded if I slept in the guest room because I hadn't had time to pack a bag, I'd be back late and I have to be here at 8am the next morning anyway. H had no problem with that at all. Told him I wasn't telling the kids because I didn't want them to think anything had changed. All good.
Went out, really enjoyed my time with J and hearing her perspective. She said she enjoyed hearing my take on the situation because it was much different than what H had told her. Not in a bad way, but our perspectives were much different (well, and he didn't tell her a whole bunch of things, only a few of which I mentioned. Just light ones). A few other friends met up with us, which was a very nice surprise.
When I came back, I went to grab the linens to put on the bed and H had already taken care of it. He also left the outside lights and an inside light on for me. Old H would not have done even that. Then this morning, my daughter bounded into the room with a super huge smile on her face to cuddle me. H told her I was downstairs and that I had spent the night in the guest room. Interesting.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
