Jen, have you seen a L? I think you need to so that you don't accidentally get screwed because you don't understand something or because you're relying on booklets from a kiosk and a friend. At the very least, knowing what is actually going on will settle your mind.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09