One of his major complaints for a long time is that whenever there is conflict I turn "robotic". I look at the details and reality of a situation and try to create a positive outcome. He says i turn unemotional, but i have a hard time understanding how he can say that. I cry, I feel, i emote all over the place. But i also try to deal with it. I'm trying to process this.

How do I relate issues with the kids and finances with him, how do I stay detached, and yet not appear cold and calculating? How do i express emotions to him without him throwing up walls and feeling attacked?


Me BS 30
Him WH 32
Kids 9, 4 and 2
Together 12 years
DDAY#1 9/30/05 False reconciliation
DDAY #2 3/13/08 blindsided

Separating and heartbroken