Well I am not sure if you meant what you said for me or not, but it is too late to edit my post. I was at work on a break and wanted to read this thread.
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In all of our conversations, he has never cited sex (or our lack there of) as a reason for his A. He has cited my dissatisfaction in our m, in him, my impatience with him, my not accepting him as all reasons. He felt that I never truly accepted him or loved him or wanted him. And it wasn't him that I didn't want, it was me. I was miserable. I was miserable human being looking to others to fill me and make me happy.
I think this is brilliant, and you can look at this statement and I believe it will help you sooo much in your M.
You ~ALONE obviously cannot fix your "broken " Sexual Connection. But at least with this awareness you can begin to heal yourself. I see this pattern in my M and sex life with my H.
When we are not Happy we project a lot of "stuff"... and our H's take it personal. I have not had time to read your sitch over yet,,, but I think if you can really work on you and make this the staring point it will help tremendously.
All my best to you and you are getting some really great advice here... I am so glad you took the risk to post and are taking the challenge to make yourself a better Human Being~! One question for you if you dont mind my asking.... Are you living with your H in the moment or are you carrying a lot of hurt around and focusing on that? God bless,,,
