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Wife just seems to want to hurt me at the moment which I don't get

She is trying to justify her decision.

You are in a phase of reducing negative emotions.

DON'T FIGHT BACK!!! (Don't resist)

Use a calm tone and state "I understand you feel that way" (Empathy) or just nod and listen without reply.

IE "I understand you want a divorce"

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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