Thanks guys! Yeah, that book makes me sick too!!! I am also feeling hopeless today about the marriage. I keep DBing and GALing and H doesn't care--apparently still in love with OW!!! I am feeling like he is 100% wanting to divorce--and I am totally bummed about that! Other Hs break up with their OW, but I guess his relationship is still going strong after 4 or 5 months or whatever. I do think with all the changes I've made that if he broke up with OW that he would at least consider the marriage for a second or two anyway!!!