People who want the commitment to staying M before they'll try to piece aren't going to get very far. (Unfortunately, lots of LBSs look for this sort of thing as soon as the WAS begins to question whether they should leave after all.) Kind of like refusing to go on a first date unless one gets a promise of going steady later on. I sure wouldn't go on the first date if someone wanted me to accept a promise ring first. I sure wouldn't try to work on an M I was ready to leave if someone wanted me to swear to stay forever first. To be trite, if you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, DON'T try to lock it up again.
Freedom is essential to love — to its existence, recognition, and growth.
OT, This very much hits home with my current sitch. W and I started piecing back in Jan. and I've been looking for her committment to committing to us. I'm not sure if I ever verbalized that, but it has certainly been in my mind. W is has been feeling that her feelings for me/us aren't what they should be and now wants to separate to get her feelings in order and head on straight. I guess its time to let go again.
