No, this was before I knew they were having an affair. She knew that his biggest fear was for me to find about their relationship. She knew that although he chose to have that relationship with her that he still wanted to be married and close to his children. She knew that if he left her, the only thing of value that she could take away from him was his family. The only way that she could hurt him would be to hurt me and our family. I guess she figured that if I found out about their affair, I would just walk away from my marriage. Directly after dday#1 and dday#2 when she becomes aware that I know about the affair, it deflates her and she backs away. For a little while. I don't know what she is doing now. I try not the care. After dday#1 she turned into a real live stalker. He crumbled under the pressure. I think he feels a responsible for ruining her life.
Me BS 30 Him WH 32 Kids 9, 4 and 2 Together 12 years DDAY#1 9/30/05 False reconciliation DDAY #2 3/13/08 blindsided
