As I just wrote to someone else just now entering "no-contact"/recovery:
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I would advise you now, ahead of time and with a cool head, to decide what your boundary is going to be in this regard. Zero tolerance? ONE slip-up, but only if she proactively tells me about it? One slip-up even if I Have to find out about it, so long as she answers me honestly when I challenge her on it? Two? Other?
Mrs. Puppy had one major slip-up, carried it on for about five days, but then PROACTIVELY told me about it, and was genuinely sorry and scared. I decided that was the ONE, and ONLY "chit" she had, and I told her so. Your mileage may vary, but I'd advise you to decide now, in the cool detached moment without a re-contact/deceit crisis on the table.
