Broken Tree WAW- MLC

[jon2911]

Tree! Bro I feel for you. At first I thought your sitch was a lot more hopeful than mine. You aren't even separated yet. After reading this whole thread, I'm not so sure.

I haven't written about this here yet, but my W got violent on Sunday night. We got into a fight which escalated, and the last straw was this:

W: you shouldn't talk to your parents. If my dad had hurt our marriage as much as yours has, I wouldn't talk to him.
Me: you don't think he did?

That was it. My C thinks that W's father is a big part of the problem. W won't hear anything negative about her dad. Maybe I shouldn't have said it, but I did. Then my stuff was being thrown out the door. All I brought was a laptop bag and some stuff to cook her dinner, but she even threw a jar of sauce at me on the way out. This is the first time anything has turned violent. I guess what she did was enough to get the police involved, but I'm not even thinking about that yet.

Two nights later, we had a great date and night together. Say what?

There's a reason we use terms like "alien" around here. Wives in this MLC aren't themselves. The roller-coaster ups and downs can be staggering. My W isn't getting drunk, so I don't even know what to tell you there.

As for the filing, don't worry about it. My W filed in August, we settled, signed everything, all she had to do was finalize it. She didn't. Now the time limit is up and the case has been thrown out. I'm sorry lawyers are involved (we didn't mess with that), but be careful with their advice. Remember, this is your life, and your lawyer works for YOU.

Your wife has made it clear that she doesn't want a D. Also, I don't care what her lawyer says, with the way she's acting, driving your son while drunk especially, there's no way she'll get a big settlement or possibly even custody. Judges don't look favorably on that.

Somehow, you need to remove yourself from her storm. Maybe the apartment for her is a good idea. This entire thread, you haven't mentioned anything you're doing to work on yourself, anything that you did wrong in the marriage. Don't beat yourself up, but realize this isn't all her fault. Be careful with family also, they can be great support, but naturally they'll take your side on everything and want you to divorce her. Hang in there man, keep us updated.