Hi R2C - It is encouraging to see the baby steps, no?
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I talked to SIL today (second time since bomb) about the wedding. I let her know I was planning on attending unless W insists that I do not go. She said she understands if I do not go.
She also pointed out two examples of how I was "insensitive" in the past. I had no idea I even hurt W on these two occations. It is amazing how not dicussing your feelings can build up all the resentment. I know I held back my feelings and W had no idea she hurt me.
Just wondering if you have done anything to show that the 'insensitive' part of you has changed, and indeed, changed for good? It would be counter productive to reference these incidents, but maybe if there is a way to show W that you would approach the situation differently?
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W was at store when MIL called. I told her "your mom called". She said "you didn't tell her I was at the bar did you?"
Do you know why this is an issue for W?
Great job, R2C - keep the changes that work. Slowly
Slowly