I appreciate your support. I know I can't figure out waywards. And I know it's counter productive to try to think of the scenario's in my mind, but I can't help that. But I do know that in the last month or so I've finally been able to detach from the outcome, whatever it may be.
I think back in Feb, when I thought the affair was over I kind of figured out that if it started again, I'd had enough. And the last two months, things seemed like they were progressing and then, BAM, it started up again (if it ever ended). And that's something I've thought alot about. I think there was a time period where the affair HAD ended. Based on a lot of things I'd seen etc. I might be kidding myself, but about early last week I started noticing little signs that maybe it was back on again and after talking with OMW, she noticed the same things. So now I know that it was back on, at least that WW WANTED it to be back on, even if OM was just playing her, I'm done.
If she had continued making progress, our recovery may have been different, i.e. I may have settled for less from her than I am willing to accept from her now. And that's where I've grown a set in the last two months. I've figured out I can live with or without her and that's a GOOD feeling. And maybe it will matter to her in the long run that she see's that. Maybe not. So maybe it's good that this reignition of the affair happened. Cause if we do make it in the end it will be what both of us WANT, not me settling for less than I want to just keep the family together.
Either way, don't care.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.