Yeah, Jill it has been a LOOOONNNNGGGGG time. I had a few dates here and there last summer when I was on Match, but after my experience w/CG I decided to get off and concentrate in my life in general.
So for those folks new to reading this forum here is my personal DB/Survival timeline:
Summer 2002 Found out about first affair. Tried DBing. H swore he was not involved w/OGIRL.
Summer/Fall 2003 I find out H had been playing me for most of the marriage. He moves out. I try DBing, and eventually learn that it doesn't work with a P/A womanizing player.
Fall 04 I start Grad School. Too busy to date! Also single mom to 2 teens!
Winter 06 Graduate Ma. Ed Technology! (Yay me!)
Fall 06 Start and lose hot shot job w/ tech company.(ouch! )
Spring/Summer 07: Do a tiny bit of dating on various sites (Match, and OK Cupid) Meet CG. Get the boot from CG. (ouch! )
Spring 08:Detach completely and forget about dating until now.
So at this point I feel like I have truly worked through many many of my issues. I have done A LOT to GAL. I am busy. I have friends. I have work that I love and a dog that I love and keeps me busy. It has taken about 5 years. I love my life right now. Very happy with the way things are. Very VERY happy to be clear of XH. My life is just better all around without him.
The downside is that this has been hard on the kids. But, my kids are doing great right now. Again, the long view is a good one.
Hang in there! Take good care of yourself!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker