Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[newnamenewlife]

You leave them with a Mom that they have to take care of insted of someone to care for them.

That's what my mom did when my dad died. She drank and drank and wasn't there for me at all. She still isn't there for me consistently. I spoke to her a little about what's going on with me and H when she was sober, and she was lovely and supportive (I didn't tell her that he's the one doing this though). Then I talked to her again when she'd obviously been drinking and she got all upset and wants to call his parents--which I do not want her to do. She is capable of making this all a lot harder for me to deal with but I can't exactly keep it from her either.