Confused as Ever

[Hope4us]

Maybe because he can keep up the pretenses that she's just a friend if there are no calls/TM's?

I hate to be so negative, but that's what this crap does to you. And I've been burned too many times with the lies and deceipt that I just don't trust one single word that comes out of her mouth. And I project my sitch to others sitch's.

You know that he's never going to be able to give you what you need in the marriage as long as he's still in contact with her, right?

It's kind of like the OM in my sitch. They were supposedly over, and I saw indications that they were, but then all the sudden the affair indications start again and then I find out they have been trading emails recently and that's all it took for another planned meet. As long as there is contact the potential for a repeat performance is there. Even if there is no contact that potential is there. That's what makes this recovery from affair stuff so scary for us betrayed's.