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he said I havent abandoned her, I visit just like other Husbands do(his words)


So in his mind it's only abandonment if he never visits?

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D 12 is seeing C tomorrow at her request to talk about this emptiness(abandonment she feels b/c of H leaving)


This is so great that she wants to talk to someone. Even if as her Mom you saw she needed it and sent her, that's just looking out for your D12. It's what parents do. I think it's just to hard for them to admit their actions really cause damage esp to their kids.

Take care and hug those wonderful kids tight.