I agree that it wasn't a major backslide just another thing that didn't work. You were able to keep the conversation pleasant.
Yeah, I don't think backslide...just same. Conversation was friendly and nice, just two people talking just topic just stunk. Typical us, like when together, nothing accomplished by the call and she mostly listened, rarely commenting...now she is thinking I guess.
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I don't want to be too harsh to anyone...
after rereading your post all afternoon, I deserved a 2x6...you can be harsh to me. I really could have handled that conversation better and I lost sight of many of my mini-goals that would enable my DB goals. I needed someone to say what you did...thanks
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You have handled yourself wonderfully. Definitely when it comes to 5D you shouldn't settle for anything less than equal time. What did you say to fighting her in court?
thanks appreciate it. Like I said not a royal blunder, just could've done better. I feel like things are basically the same not worse, maybe even a speck better b/c she gave equal time and said "I am a good Dad now, I see the 5D needs you." As far as court comment, her original statement when she got to the topic was, "why are we prolonging things. (she ummmed and hmmmed and continued) I will give you equal time if that is what you want, I can contact lawyer and he can redo papers, every month I go deeper in debt, would you sign a no-fault or do you want to go to court and fight." She said all of this in the same nice, friendly, normal voice...when I started to talk, she interrupted and I said are you going to listen and she said I am listening now. Then I stumbled and ummed, etc before saying I don't want to fight with you, and basically into what I posted in my journal...she has no grounds for fault and cannot get a no-fault w/o me signing. So, her court comment is something said but we both know she cannot do that. So asking me to sign no-fault is basically asking me for D...she cannot get it any other way. blah blah
thanks again...I thought a lot about what you wrote last night and like I said...needed that smack upside the head.
Had to call her yesterday, relative in surgery. She was friendly, nice, "hey", etc...so, like I said, similar status.
