I don't think right now would be a time to share it with him. Maybe he'll see it on his own if you leave it out...
My H went from "The kids will be fine, they'll be happy if we are happy" (when divorced) to finally seeing that this will be devastating on them. But I know he still wouldn't be open to reading a book. I am like you, I want to read all I can, be prepared, if needed.
My IC gave me this link to look at, its books and workbooks...
