GL with your new life, Fish. I think all of us here just want you to be happy.
BUT, that said, what's your D doing this weekend?
A lot of us spend a lot of time when we are the LBS not understanding how the mothers/fathers of our children can just go off and not think about how they are hurting their kids. Are you doing the same thing now that you're a WA? You better start putting your daughter first or she's going to be hurting. A hurt that may take a lifetime to heal.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
You'll need it because you're not carrying one new skill or behavior into this new "relationship". And the other party has baggage of her own you just haven't seen. It's a guarantee. Oh yes, that's a guaranteed shocker when HER mask comes off. If it were not so, she wouldn't be hooking up with her friend's husband.
Hey, fish is "100% committed" to something again! Who would have thought. No middle ground ever for this man. Yup, and he's headin' off to Vegas with his W's friend for the weekend, how the heck could that possibly go wrong?
You'll need it because you're not carrying one new skill or behavior into this new "relationship". And the other party has baggage of her own you just haven't seen. It's a guarantee. Oh yes, that's a guaranteed shocker when HER mask comes off. If it were not so, she wouldn't be hooking up with her friend's husband.
So yep.
Your going to need all the luck you can get.
AmyC
No luck needed he's got commitment on his side.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
Well, I think after a few months of this "new life" he's creating for himself he may need more than commitment, he may be need to be commited...to an institution of some type! Whew, I know that's where I'd be heading if I thought screwing around with my W's good friend was in some way a healthy, rational choice. Give us a break fish, you are way out of control and now, just to prove me right, you're going off to "celebrate" this insanity, go figure.
I think we all realize that the fish took a pretty big hit, that roller coaster went from a high point to a low dip just like that! It's devastating. But, what fish is doing now is latching onto a pain killer in the form of another R (and with a friend of his W's!), a sure fire recipe for disaster. He's taking no time to reassess where he needs to be, no thought of how this will effect his child rearing R with his W or what this might do to his kids! Despite ALL the advice here, he's still going full steam ahead into a bad place. That said, I want fish to know that all those who are here kicking his rear will still be here for him when he needs to come back. Fish is human and, like the rest of us, will make mistakes...it's often the name of this game. I hope he just doesn't do too much damage in the mean time.
