If he's in a crisis, he may not even comprehend the truth of your words. On top of that, men need to feel respected so we women have to be careful with how we convey something. And when he's feeling the guilt, he will want to lash out at you in anger... Have you heard of the book "Love & Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs?
I think he did take to heart at least some of what you said to him because he took care of S6 before he left.
I like your plan to give him the space to heal. Ask God for strength and the words to use in your interaction with your H. -PH
