Toward the end of last Summer we were getting closer and closer. We had gone from enemies (in anger stage she HATED me) to a budding friendship. I was doing things for her, she was very appreciative and we were beginning to enjoy one another's company. It was during this time that she said to me, "We're getting along together so well, who knows what could happen down the road?" She also commented to a mutual friend that if had been like that a couple of years ago we wouldn't be geting a D.
Then without warning I recieved D papers (something she had initiated MONTHS earlier). I was blown away, angry and felt betrayed again. She was not happy either as this is not the way she instructed her L to do it. We both got major defenses up and trench warfare ensued.
More recently (since Christmas?) things are much relaxed again. We haven't had a major fight since Halloween. She has definately taken notice of me. She once again has expressd jealousy at the possibliity of me being with someone else.
Weirdness: She got angry with me a couple of weeks ago when she asked me to keep the kids for her and I didn't (it was her week to keep them and I was trying to distance myself and give her a taste of D life). She made the comment, "This is why we're getting a divorce." At the same time she said "I know we're getting a divorce anyway, but you should have helped." Either she was trying to re-engage me or angry that I interrupted her cake eating.
Also, when I have moved away from her she has responded with anger. As I look back it's when I do more for her and engage her more that she has responded positively (see above). I'm trying to do more of what has worked and less of what hasn't.
I feel like I can always pull back, but won't be able to easily move closer after I have done so. I also haven't flirted much with her since we separated (never was skilled in that area), so I might as well give it a shot now.
Speaking of flirting: I texted her after I got home tonight and mentioned how good she looked and how "dangerous" the high heels she was wearing were. She immediately text responded "thanks."
After reading over my post I think i'll go find a wall to beat my head against. Preferably one with a nail sticking out of it.
Last edited by sleeper; 04/03/0802:31 AM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
