[girlfromipanema]

I've been using my thread to journal more than anything else. I want to stay solution-based, but I loaned my book to a friend and need to get it back. I know the first step is to start with a beginner's mind, but I don't remember what that means exactly. I do feel like I'm out in limbo-land waiting for my H to decide what he wants to do about our marriage. The waiting is not easy; however, I feel somewhat patient because there are only two options and one of them holds absolutely zero appeal. Perhaps if I start making some goals, and start doing the steps as outlined in DR, I'll feel less anxious about being in limbo.

Also, the goal-setting aspect of DR seems odd to me. If I remember correctly, it's important to set goals such as "H and I will begin sleeping in the same bed" or "H and I will watch a movie together" - or maybe I'm way off base. If I am on the right track for goals, how does one work toward them? I must be dense, but it almost seems like hope-setting rather than setting attainable (through our own action and effort) goals.

How's this for a goal:
If my friend doesn't return my copy of DR by tomorrow night, I'll go buy a new copy. =)