UGH Tal, you didn't jinx yourself, I have a feeling piecing involved lots of yucky exchanges. I think the only difference in piecing is that both spouses want the same thing, and I think you and H have that part down. Just let the fight today cool down and start over again.
I hear ya on sick! D3 is home with a fever today, poor baby.
Knowone can piss me off more than he can.. the kids included.. they can even get me half as mad as he makes me sometimes.
He just called to ask me if I did something (business related).. I had S5 answer and I went to the bathroom so I wouldn't have to talk, but he gave the phone to me in there. I was short and didn't say much about 3 words.. I think he gets the picture, I will stay away tonight.. thats for sure.
Sorry to hear about the little one.. I hate when they have fevers.. is it a cold or flu type??
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Nonsense, TAL, he wouldn't talk that way to the hired help. He'd be afraid they'd quit. He saves his worst behavior for his family. It doesn't make sense, but that's what people do. You need to speak up for yourself and set some boundaries. You take care of the home and the kids and whatever else, and he needs to treat you at least as well as he would a stranger. And you should treat him as well as you would treat a stranger too. That is called common decency. (It's not so common.)
sara.. Yes you are right.. but he is pretty hard on his help.. only because most of them ARE neaderthals.. Whenever he does get like this, believe me I do get my back up.. I have a firey temper too, and I don't back down easily, I just can contain it better than him, also because I don't want my kids to see me freaking out. I tend to kill him with silence. If Im wrong I have no problem apologizing.. im a big enough person to.. but when he is wrong, I'll be damned if Im going to suck his azz... its not happening at this point in my life!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
LWB is right there are a lot of arguements im sure in piecing.
Maybe the next time he tells you something you should repeat it back and ask H if you have the right understanding. Then there should not be a misunderstanding for him.
I think I would also tell H that you do not expect to be treated worse or like the hired help. You are his W, mother of his children and deserve to be treated with love and respect.
Sounds good anyway.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Well, I was upstairs when he came home, almost asleep. My S5 wanted to his daddy, so I said hurry up and say good nite. So then he came him and kissed my forehead and said he was sorry for the way he acted. I was half asleep, I think I said ah ha.. that's it. Im glad I wasn't coherent. I didn't want to get into it with him, and he apologized anyway.
So this morning didn't even see him, he left early so that was good. :)... well you know what I mean. didn't want to re-hash anything.
Our personalities are really different as far as having an arguement, He will forgive and forget in minutes, I tend to hold grudges.. Ive gotten better though..My dad was like that with my mom, I guess that's where I get it from.
All is quiet here, didn't fall today which is a good thing...:)
Got a ticket though for talking on my cell phone.. cop was really arrogant.. I know I was wrong, but it was a town cop, and he could have given me a warning... the ticket is like $155.. so my brother (who is a state trooper) said he would call him up for me. Thank the lord, didn't want to have to pay that.. and my license is crystal clean.. never had a ticket before.. so that's my drama.. got to go to some laundry.. hope all had a good day..
good nite!
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
