Monday night my recovery group went very well. W wanted to sign the tax papers, so I went by her place quickly, said a couple nice things, then left.
Very unexpectedly, she called and asked my to come over last night. She needed help packing. I had to cancel plans, and let her know that, but was excited to come. I came with no expectations, just wanting to help.
W's attitude was completely different. Night and Day. She got some serious migraine meds through an IV at the doctor, and maybe that helped. I think my attitude helped also. I took her on my Harley for dinner at one of our favorite restaurants, and she complemented me for joking with the waiter. "You're getting more social", she said. Good. We had a great time at dinner, came back and set up an air mattress because all her furniture was gone. It was so fun, we both felt like we were camping, and I got to hold her and talk for a while.
As it turns out, she called OM Sunday night after I left. I was afraid of that. He came over and tried to "comfort" her, tried to make a move and grope her. Nice move bud. She got angry just talking about it, and said she might need to change her number because he's always calling and texting her. She didn't want him to know she was back in town, but he drove by and found out. He's a real stalker her. A few weeks ago I guessed that she's moving to Houston to get away from him, and she said "that's a good guess." I told her I'll do anything to help, and I wish she'd let me.
She admitted that she had wanted to go for a motorcycle ride and have some fun this weekend, but felt that I was presumptuous to make elaborate plans. Showed me once again how important the "no expectations" rule is. Our relationship is so fragile right now, but I think I'm learning how to handle it better thanks to the advice on this board.
At one point, she gave me feedback about how she feels when I talk about other women (this was just a funny story), and I really thanked her for the feedback and apologized for making her feel that way. The lines of communication were definitely open, and I felt like I had my W back, if only for one night. We spent most of the night packing up her stuff. It was so nice to sleep next to her again.
I ended up having to store a lot more of her stuff at my place, which is good. She'll have to come back for it. She's also going to have doctor appointments in Dallas once a month. Best-case I can DB like crazy and see her once a month.
A little text exchange today capped it off: W: Thank you so much for your selflessness last night and this morning Me: Thanks for being my princess W: bye bye my prince
Overall, a very encouraging end to the weekend. I'm so emotionally and physically exhausted today that I can't really process it all right now. Does any of this mean anything? Maybe not.
I'm making huge steps in some issues in my life right now, and need to work on setting goals and posting them here. If she gives me another chance I don't want to screw it up again.
Last edited by jon2911; 04/02/0810:30 PM.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
