So I'm like sitting here typing away on dar's thread laughing at the whole nickname for Richard and I glanced up and Richard walked in the door Hate those sneak attacks! When I'd finally picked my chin up off the floor I did walk over and give him a big old hug and a big old KISSSSSSSSSS
So I spent a total of 20 minutes talking to him, he's working a security job next city over. But he wanted to make sure he saw me so I wasn't upset at him??????????????????????
I'm not sure what all we said, but it again included the blaming, which I did not partake in nor did I let go any further than the first sentence.
Then I asked him just what the hell he wanted of me....he said to put the house on the market. I said no. I don't have to. I then told him about the meeting with my attorney, again he did not want to listen.......he then told me he would simply go before the Judge and ask her? I said fine. The Judge is not going to see him without representation anyways. So I know better. He then said he would get a different attorney instead of the knucklehead he had the last time. I said fine. Then I said I don't want to talk anymore, I'm at work and I don't want to be upset.
We then started talking about the economy and blah blah blah the tires on my truck, his new beard then I asked him point blank ARE YOU MARRIED? He looked at me and kinda made that disgusted sound and said of course I'm not married. I let it slide...
Now he goes on to tell me about TEDDY! Look, I'm sorry the man got divorced, I'm sorry the man found someone else and she died on their wedding, I truly am...but this man has sucked Rich into every emotional drama since the first day they rekindled their freindship from high school.
According to Rich he does live with someone but not like I think it is.....but now he's back living with Teddy. Teddy has built a shrine in his home of his late wife on an hour. Candles, pictures, her personal stuff all decorate his home. Rich said he would call him at 3 am 5 am...all week long crying, finally he moved back to Teddy's. He said he doesn't know what to do, I said i do he said he couldn't as it would kill him.
Then.....I said everything I wanted to say but have always been to afraid to say...i let the tears flow. I ended it with, If I had my wish it would be for us to let go of the past and work on our future. He started to answer me but I said I did not need an answer I just needed to tell him how I felt. He answered it anyways...he said he wished the same, except it's hard for him to see a future when he barely lives day to day.
Now.....someone asked me today if I thought Rich every thought about suicide, I answered a quick NO. He told me today that he drives down the road many many times wondering why he is here in life, what purpose does he serve? That he has thought many times of just going away ending it all. This brought on a whole different level of conversation....it's hard to remember it all. But it brought out some good stuff.
Then I asked him one last time if he was married? Again he said no....then I told him how I knew. I said it really doesn't matter to me if you are or you are not. Even if you are married I believe you married her for other reasons than love. He again said he wasn't married.
I said I had to go...sorry he felt so bad about things and told him there is a solution for even the worst of problems but you have to be open to listen to them if you want to achieve your goals. He said he was very interested in talking to me about that. He then gave me a big warm hug. It felt good.
How did he let himself get so messed up?
Why do I leave these conversations more confused than before?
What the hell is going on here?
Who is this man?
Why didn't he put up a huge fuss and have a tantrum when I said I wasn't going to sell the house???
AAACKKK!!!
dar.....if you read this. Perfect example of how NC works. The less you know the easier it is to get on and GAL.
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
then I asked him point blank ARE YOU MARRIED? He looked at me and kinda made that disgusted sound and said of course I'm not married. I let it slide...
he said he couldn't as it would kill him. 
This brought on a whole different level of conversation....it's hard to remember it all. But it brought out some good stuff.